Why “Someday” Is the Most Expensive Word We Use
We all say it. “Someday, I’ll take that trip.” “Someday, I’ll start that project.” “Someday, I’ll finally put myself first.”
And just like that, our dreams, our desires, and even our sense of feeling alive get postponed and put on the backburner.
Here’s the thing: “someday” is probably the most expensive word we use. Not because it costs money — though waiting too long can definitely add up — but because it costs time, joy, and presence.
If you’re living in a cold, dark place right now, you know what I mean. Days can feel long, gray, and heavy. We move through life on autopilot, plugging through the snow, feeling numb, flat, or just… blah. And while we wait for the “perfect” time, the “perfect” circumstances, life quietly keeps moving forward.
The hardest part? Those things we put on the backburner almost always ripple beyond us. That trip we keep saying we’ll take could have been the memory that made us laugh until our cheeks hurt. That little self-care we keep postponing could have prevented burnout or just reminded us what it feels like to be alive. That “someday” decision might have inspired someone else to finally say yes to themselves too.
As a cancer survivor, I know in my bones how precious time is. Time is a gift, and investing in ourselves truly matters — because if we don’t, no one is going to do it for us. Life can’t wait until we feel “ready” or until the perfect moment magically appears. Sometimes we just have to say yes to ourselves first.
Here’s the good news: you don’t have to wait for someday. Even tiny steps matter.
These days, on a typical winter morning, I sit in front of my sunlamp for 20 minutes with a warm mug of coffee or cacao, working on yet another 1,000-piece puzzle. I know I’ll finish it in a few days and start a new one — just to give my mind something to engage in. Sometimes I collage a little gift for someone, hoping to brighten their day. And I whisper a quiet prayer to God, asking for help to remind me that I am not alone, that this snow and cold will melt, and that my heart will open and flower again. These small, intentional moments of care bring me back to life — even when winter is gray and heavy.
Reconnect your body and mind: Stretch, take a short walk, or breathe mindfully — even a few minutes can help you feel grounded.
Schedule it: Literally put it on your calendar — a walk, a class, or a little retreat for yourself.
Say yes to mini-moments: Tea in quiet reflection, a sunrise walk, a call with someone who lifts you up — these little seeds grow.
Shift your mindset: Swap “someday” for “today, in some way.” Even the tiniest action moves you closer to your dreams.
Life is happening now. Those moments we keep putting off? We may never get them back. And our one life? It’s meant to be lived — fully, boldly, and intentionally.
So let’s stop letting “someday” steal our time. Let’s step into what matters today — not perfectly, not all at once, but in ways that honor our dreams, our health, and our hearts.
Because someday isn’t free — but living your one life? That’s priceless.
And if you’re ready to shake off the numbness, step out of autopilot, and feel alive again, sometimes that first step starts on a black sand beach in Bali — moving to your own rhythm, surrounded by women doing the same.
Curious to learn more? Email us at myonelifeliveit@gmail.com for a no-pressure chat about Bali and to see if it might be the right next step for you.
